LOL, that’s what one of the speakers at the I.LEAD conference said about me when he began his speech.
I was asked by the organizers to talk about youth engagement and empowerment.
The whole theme of the conference was youth engagement and empowerment.
And the weird thing was they contacted me a few weeks ago and asked me if I could do it.
And me, I always figure these kinds of invitations come with some purpose from God behind them, so I was free and I said yes, I’d do it.
But when I got the topic: youth engagement and empowerment, this little impish voice at the back of my mind said, “Why bother?”
At least that’s the first thought that would occur to me if I was still a youth, and heard the phrase, so I asked them to add that little tail to the title, so my topic became Youth Engagement and Empowerment–Why Bother?
And then it was my husband who pointed out that I was actually the first speaker of the day, and that meant that my speech was like the keynote, it would set the tone for the rest of the one day conference.
As if I didn’t have enough pressure on me already!
And yes, apparently mine was a kind of key note.
So I spent most of the last week working on my speech. Mentioned it in a previous post.
Anyway, went to Ottawa on Friday afternoon and I was asked to present to one of the masjids that was going to be there at the conference, give them a bit of a teaser so I ended up basically telling them about my background, kind of a modified version of my Coming To Canada presentation.
They loved it!
Was mobbed afterwards with people buying books.
Then things got a bit muddled for me because one of the gentlemen suggested I do that storytelling session as my speech since it does actually deal with me, as a youth, becoming engaged and empowered.
I thought, “Should I?”
Storytelling is ALWAYS more engaging than reading off a speech!
But when I spoke to one of the organizers the next morning about the idea, you should have seen her face blanche. Then I told her not to worry, I was perfectly prepared to do the speech I’d prepared, no problem.
Poor thing.
I know how hard it is to put together a conference like this! She hadn’t slept or eaten for the whole of last week!
So I got up there and did the speech, and THEY LOVED IT!
They clapped!
They laughed at all the right spots!
And for the rest of the day, I could hardly walk twenty feet without someone coming up to me and telling me how much they loved the speech.
And the youth!!!
They said how I’d actually put into words the frustrations they’d been feeling for so long!
Omigosh, the adulation!
It was quite disorienting.
Yeah, it was an okay speech, but I really can’t figure out what the big deal was.
I just covered the topic as I was supposed to.
I even had people coming up to me and saying it was the best speech of the conference and others (about five independent sources) said that after hearing my speech they thought, “Yup. I got what I came for. I can go home now.” And they felt that the $20 fee for the conference was worth the price of that alone!
Wow!
I was sitting in the VIP area, beside a lovely Christian lady who was a school trustee or councillor or something. She said she was really looking forward to my speech.
When I came down from the stage she said, “You really woke them up!” and then she added, “Loved it! You could have been talking about any group of people!”
Basically she was referring to the issues I’d raised about youth and how her Christian community was experiencing similar issues.
One of my friends said she couldn’t believe I’d said the word ‘ejaculation’ in it! Which is probably why one of the Muslim leaders, while he also loved the speech, said it was wonderful, but also said it had little ‘spikes’ in it.
When I pressed him for what he meant, he wouldn’t elaborate, but basically intimated that there were some ‘impolite’ things.
I asked, “What impolite things?”
He just smiled, “Just little spikes…but it was a good speech! Just little spikes.”
That’s all he would say.
I think he was referring to the ejaculation phrase. Honestly I was just referring to when Islamically a boy becomes a man, it’s when he starts ejaculating and for girls, they are considered women when they start menstruating. That’s what I said, plain and simple.
And the thing is Islamically there is absolutely nothing wrong with using such frank language. In fact the Prophet (peace be upon him) deliberately said there was no ‘shyness or shame’ (the word he used was hayat) when it comes to religion. And many of his hadith are outright frank and explicit.
I think the people at ILEAD will be putting up the speech online. When they do, insha Allah, I’ll post a link to it.
They had a HUGE turnout for the conference. They were hoping for 2000, they got over 2700.
And it was a united front with all ten Muslim organizations in the Ottawa region represented! Quite a coup!
Hmm.
Maybe now that I’ve gotten that off my chest I can go to sleep now. It was boggling me so much I couldn’t sleep and I have two presentations in seven hours!
Over and out.
6 Responses
Margaret Ullrich
18|Mar|2013 1Hi, Rukhsana,
You Go Girl!
Looking forward to when you post that link to your speech.
Ah, Ottawa… It was almost a year ago when we met you there. We really enjoyed our stay in Ottawa and are hoping to move there in a couple of years. Well, we’ll see how it all works out.
Have a good week,
Marg
Rukhsana Khan
18|Mar|2013 2Hi Marg!
Omigosh yes! It was about a year ago that we met at that hotel breakfast buffet!
Thanks for the kind words!
I told my husband about my blog post and he said it sounded like I was bragging. Told my son too that I try to just keep it straight, but it’s kind of uncomfortable talking about good things that happen. It does feel braggy, even though that’s not my intention.
And goodness, I talk enough about the negative things that happen, just trying to keep it real.
Oh well.
It was a phenomenal experience!
Have a good week too!
All the best,
Rukhsana
p.s. It would be great if you moved to Ottawa! You’d be closer!
Atiyya
19|Mar|2013 3It’s not braggy. It shows the need for a shift in the way things are done – the fact that you were so warmly received is a marker of what needs to be said and what people want to hear: the universal principle of truth. As the Christian lady said, you could have delivered the same message to other audiences and it would be equally effective. MashaAllah.
One of your co-moderators called you a one-woman dynamo.
Its a wake up for the Muslim community and I predict seeing your name on speakers’ lists for more events like this.
May you always be truthful and honest because that’s what is needed.
Rukhsana Khan
20|Mar|2013 4A one-woman dynamo huh? LOL!
Omigosh that’s hilarious!
Jazakullah khairun for your kind words.
But that said, please please please do let me know if I start getting braggy! I really can’t stand that!
And so far, alhamdu lillah, my family is excellent at keeping the swelling of my head down! But the more people you can rely upon for these things, the better!
Maslaama and hugs,
Rukhsana
Margaret Ullrich
19|Mar|2013 5Hi, Rukhsana,
No, you weren’t bragging. You bring up an interesting point. Why does it feel more comfortable to talk about bad things instead of good things?
This is bragging: My ‘I’m Turning 60…’ blog has had over 50,000 visitors! It always had about a third of the readership my Winnipeg blog had. Yesterday it had 5x as many visitors. Maybe it’s a sign that our future will not be in Winnipeg?
We’re originally from New York, so, along with being closer to you, we’d be closer to our relatives, too. We were just hit by a mega snow storm and there is talk of spring flooding. We’re getting too old for this kind of weather.
Stay well,
Marg
Rukhsana Khan
20|Mar|2013 6Hi Marg,
I heard the windchill in Winnipeg was -27 degrees Celsius! That is too too cold for the first day of spring!
Thank you for the kind words!
I keep feeling as though as long as I share both the highs and the lows and keep it honest then it’s not braggy but then I get scared.
But your’e right, it is much more comfortable to talk about the negatives than the positive stuff!
Congrats on your blog having 50,000 visitors! Good on you!!!
Gotta start getting ready for the Alaska trip! Yikes Barrow is going to have a high of -22 for the next few days!
Just realized I don’t have any mittens!
LOL!
Nothing like leaving things till the last minute!
Hugs,
Rukhsana
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